The Story Behind Lakota’s Legacy
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In 2015, a little ball of fluff with tipped ears and a round belly bounded into my life. I named her Lakota, and she quickly became my world. I poured my heart into doing all the right things: ensuring she had a clean bill of health, the most engaging toys, abundant love, and the finest nutrition I could offer. Following the common advice & what I knew from raising all my other dogs, I took her everywhere to socialize her. But our adventures took a turn when she faced aggression from other dogs. My heart ached for her; I never intended for her to experience harm. As her behavior began to unravel, I found myself lost in a maze of confusion, desperation, and heartache.
When our world seemed to crumble, I vowed to uncover the “why” behind her struggles. I dedicated myself to learning about canine behavior to prevent others from tumbling into the same abyss we had encountered. My commitment was to pursue this knowledge gently, without causing any distress to the dogs or casting judgment upon their humans. This mission became my passion—to empower, enlighten, and uplift those feeling alone, ashamed, or defeated by their dog’s behavioral challenges. Continue scrolling to discover more…
She had some really cool friends
In our attempts to assist Lakota in socializing with other dogs, I brought her to various dog parks and playtimes. Instead of engaging with the other dogs, she seemed more comfortable sticking close to me. Although we did have some pleasant interactions with a dog named Wilma, the majority of our park visits proved to be challenging. There was a concerning instance where Lakota sustained an injury due to another dog's behavior, and we also encountered some unfriendly situations, including a frightening incident during one of our walks. These negative encounters led us to seek out quieter locations and reduce our frequency of outings.
We walked many paths together, listening to nature. I talked, she listened quietly. Sometimes we sat in the peaceful woods, away from noise. Her instincts always led us back home. She gave me security and certainty in a chaotic world. I just loved her so much. She was my best friend.
We watched many beautiful sunsets together.
She slept right next to me in bed every night,…
When Lakota started limping during our walks, I initially dismissed it as growing pains. She was a young, energetic pup, after all. However, the vet’s diagnosis was a harsh reality check. X-rays revealed a fracture in her elbow—a cruel twist of fate or perhaps a genetic issue. The vet’s words were clear: without surgery, she would lose the use of her leg.
Determined to afford her surgery, I was prepared to make any sacrifice. Money was no object when it came to her well-being (saltines it was!). But fate had another challenge in store. Just days before her scheduled operation, Lakota’s curiosity led her to a container of pain medication. She had actually jumped up on the kitchen counter! The empty bottle on the floor signaled an emergency rush to the vet. The cost soared to $5,000, but my only concern was her safety.
Lakota’s recovery was a serious battle against her nature. Confined to a kennel, she struggled against the bandages and constraints, her spirit too wild for the stillness required to heal. She even tore through her kennel door, her pain managed with medication. Watching over her, I was consumed by worry, willing her to rest and recover. It was a time of trial, but my resolve never wavered: I would do anything for Lakota.
As the days passed, Lakota’s behavior began to unravel, bringing chaos and concern into our lives. The kennel that once held her now stood empty, a testament to her desperate escapes whenever I stepped away. Our home, once a haven, bore the scars of her distress—shredded pillows, overturned furniture, and silent cries for help etched into every corner.
The fence marking our territory became a battleground, with neighbor dogs unwittingly drawn into a conflict they didn’t understand. Walks, once a harmonious dance, turned into a struggle for control, each step a tug-of-war between her instincts and my pleas for calm.
Her reactions to the world—a world she no longer trusted—grew fierce. Lunges replaced greetings, barks echoed like alarms, and the gentle nip of play morphed into defensive snaps. The leash in my hand became a fraying lifeline with each encounter, as I grappled with the reality of a companion transformed by unseen fears.
In my quest to find help for Lakota as her behavior spiraled beyond my control, I reached out to numerous trainers, each offering different solutions and promises. The variety of advice left me feeling uncertain and overwhelmed. I sought out nationally recognized trainers, verifying their backgrounds and reviews. One suggested confronting her fears with peanut butter or citronella spray—methods that didn’t sit well with me. Another recommended a shock collar, assuring me it was safe when used correctly, but it unsettled my conscience. Lakota’s condition worsened, and I found myself second-guessing my instincts more and more.
I was no expert, so I tentatively placed my trust in their hands, only to watch Lakota’s spirit fracture further under the weight of prong collars and electric shocks. Medication offered no solace, and her aggression intensified, a reflection of the turmoil within.
The world shrank to fit within the confines of what Lakota could endure, which seemed to be diminishing by the day. Our home became a fortress, windows barricaded, doors reinforced, yet still she managed to leave her mark of distress. The financial toll was matched only by the emotional one, as I juggled work and worry, haunted by the question of what had led us here.
I had long conversations with my veterinarian about what to do with her. My veterinarian’s words echoed with a grim finality, suggesting an outcome too painful to bear. He told me, “sometimes, no matter what we do, it’s not enough. Sometimes the dog becomes a huge liability and you are left with little choice”. I knew exactly what he was trying to tell me. The surreal nature of our plight left me reeling, searching for answers to a question that haunted my every waking moment: Why did this happen to her?
In a world where trust is as fragile as a spider’s web, I found myself ensnared in a web of deceit spun by a man who wore the guise of a savior. My beloved Lakota was in dire need of guidance that was beyond my scope of knowledge or experience, and I, her devoted guardian, embarked on a relentless quest to find her help. The nights grew long as I delved into the depths of the internet, my fingers weary from typing pleas for help, my voice hoarse from calls.
Then, like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, he appeared—a man cloaked in the valor of a “K9 trainer for the marines.” He told me his father was also a trainer and he followed suit. He said he could help “fix” what’s wrong with Lakota. All I needed to do was “trust” him. On a nice sunny day, I felt optimistic I was getting some help. I met him at a park with Lakota. He told me she was “beautiful” & he would “love to take her to (his) home for her training”. He told me he could “get her titled with IPO and her puppies would be worth a lot of money” (I thought that quite odd and declined. What was “IPO” anyway?). He told me “she needs to know who the alpha is, the boss.” To myself, I questioned “What boss?”; our relationship isn’t like that at all. I second guessed myself (time and time and time again) because I wasn’t a “professional trainer”.
As he led her around, the leash jerked sharply, causing her to shrink back in fear. The scene quickly escalated when he switched to a horse lead and choke collar, lifting her off the ground. I stood frozen, shock coursing through me at the sight. I demanded Lakota’s return and declared we would not return. His assurances of a refund were empty, and he vanished like a shadow. My inquiries to local trainers turned up nothing; his name was unknown, his presence a ghostly whisper in the dog training community.
Betrayal burned in my chest, a fire fueled by anger and disbelief. How could one don the mask of a trainer, yet wield cruelty in the name of discipline? I was in utter shock of what I was witnessing! My heart ached for Lakota, for the pain she did not deserve. And within me, a storm raged—a tempest of fury for the injustice we faced, and a vow etched in the very marrow of my bones: never again would I allow darkness to touch her, never again would I falter. For in this tale of drama, horror, betrayal, and disbelief, I stood as her protector, unwavering, unyielding, unbroken.
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From that pivotal moment, I made a vow—a vow etched in the depths of my resolve. Lakota, my guiding star and heart’s fire, became the force driving my every action. I swore to unravel the mystery of her pain, to trace the roots of her distress. Somehow, someday, I would find the answers to my questions. She ignited a passion within me, a mission not just to heal her, but to light the way for others. I resolved to become a guardian against the shadows that had once engulfed us, to turn our struggles into a lighthouse of hope for all who walk beside their four-legged friends. This was more than a promise; it was my purpose, my unwavering commitment to the one who had given me so much.
As a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant and Professional Accredited Dog Trainer, my purpose is to help dogs and their owners build strong, lasting bonds through positive reinforcement training. I specialize in teaching life skills from puppyhood onward, particularly for young dogs struggling with overexcitement and dogs dealing with trauma, anxiety, or aggressive behaviors.
My powerful “why” stems from a deep passion for canine well-being and a commitment to humane training methods. I believe that every dog deserves a chance to thrive in a loving, supportive environment. My approach is holistic, focusing on the physical, emotional, and mental health of each dog. By using only positive reinforcement methods, I aim to create a safe space where dogs can learn, grow, and overcome their challenges.
Witnessing the transformation in dogs and the joy it brings to their owners fuels my dedication. Every success story, every wagging tail, and every moment of connection reaffirms my mission. I am here to guide, support, and empower both dogs and their owners on their journey to a harmonious life together. My hope is to inspire you, to help you find joy instead of stress; hope instead of hopelessness, and knowing someone is there to support you rather than suffering alone.
My approach to canine behavior is driven by a deep passion and a commitment to education and experience. I am constantly updating my skills, immersing myself in the latest advancements in canine science through hundreds of hours of educational webinars, conferences, and courses. I possess a diverse array of techniques to meet the unique needs of each dog I work with, ensuring that none of my methods involve pain, intimidation, force, or harsh corrections. I firmly reject the use of chokers, spray collars, prong collars, and shock collars, choosing instead to foster trust and understanding through positive reinforcement.
I am a pledged member of the Shock-Free Coalition (see here: https://www.petprofessionalguild.com/advocacy/shock-free-coalition/).
American Veterinary Society of Animal Behavior (ASVAB) Position Statement on Humane Dog Training: https://avsab.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/AVSAB-Humane-Dog-Training-Position-Statement-2021.pdf
The dog training industry isn’t regulated!! The lack of regulation in the dog training industry poses a significant risk for dog owners seeking assistance with their pets’ behavioral issues. It’s essential to exercise caution and conduct thorough research before entrusting your dog to a trainer. Claims of professionalism and success stories are not enough; it’s vital to delve deeper.
Avoiding dog training scams requires vigilance and careful research. Here are some tips to help dog owners steer clear of deceitful trainers:
Check Credentials and Reviews: Look for trainers with recognized certifications and positive reviews from other dog owners. Organizations like the International Association of Behavior Consultants, and the Association of Professional Dog Trainers are a great place to start.
Beware of Extreme Methods: Avoid trainers who use harsh, outdated methods like alpha-dominance or physical punishment. Positive reinforcement training is more humane and effective.
Ask for References: A reputable trainer should be able to provide references from past clients. Contact these references to get firsthand accounts of their experiences.
Observe a Training Session: Before committing, ask to observe a training session. This will give you insight into the trainer’s methods and how they interact with dogs.
Avoid High-Pressure Sales Tactics: Be wary of trainers who pressure you to make quick decisions or who make grand promises that seem too good to be true
Verify Claims: If a trainer claims to have specific qualifications or experience, verify these claims independently. Contact the organizations they mention or look for online records.
Trust Your Instincts: If something feels off or if the trainer’s methods make you uncomfortable, trust your instincts and look for another option.
By following these steps, dog owners can better protect themselves and their beloved pets from falling victim to scams.
Are you navigating the challenges of a young, exuberant dog, or perhaps feeling lost with a pup that’s anxious, traumatized, or displaying aggressive behaviors? My expertise lies in transforming these struggles into success stories. I work with dogs of all backgrounds, including those adjusting to multi-dog households, ensuring that each one receives the personalized care they need.
For the puppies under my wing, I lay a foundation that prevents future behavioral issues. Through empowerment and agency, they learn to be self-assured, joyful, and adept problem-solvers. This early education curbs common problems like separation anxiety, counter-surfing, leash pulling, door dashing, excessive barking, and resource guarding.
My role extends beyond training; I’m here to enlighten you on the intricacies of canine behavior, fostering a profound connection between you and your dog. Together, we’ll embark on a journey towards a harmonious life, filled with understanding and free from stress. Let’s nurture a relationship that allows both you and your cherished canine to thrive.
I promise to uphold a training philosophy that is rooted in mutual respect and understanding. I assure you that I won’t claim to have a magic solution that will “fix” your dog’s behavior instantly, nor will I resort to using force or fear-based methods. You won’t find me using tools like shock collars, nor will I conceal any such devices while working with your beloved companion.
Instead, my approach is built on the foundation of partnership and communication. I believe in offering choices and fostering trust. You’ll often hear me talk about understanding your dog’s needs, providing guidance and support, and nurturing a respectful and trusting relationship. This is my commitment to you and your canine friend.
I had no idea how much I loved learning all this stuff. I wanted to help others learn too! I started helping other humans with their dogs part time. In the Fall of 2019, I went full time and started my own business and became the owner of Lakota’s Legacy Behavior & Life Skills Training, as I continued pursuing my accreditations.
Today, I am a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant (CDBC) and Accredited Dog Trainer (ADT) with the International Association of Animal Behavior Consultants (IAABC), and a Professional Dog Trainer certified in concept training under Dr. Tom Mitchell, BVSc, BSc, MRCVS. I use Positive Rewards and Fear-Free Choice methods. I belong to the Association of Professional Dog Trainers (APDT) and Shock-Free Coalition. I have been taught from so many industry experts, it’s tough to name them all. From Dr. Kathy Murphy BVetMed, DPhil, CVA, CLAS, MRCVS; Dr. Tom Mitchell, BVSc, BSc, MRCVS; Grisha Stewart; Leslie McDevitt; Dr. Laura Donaldson; Kim Brophey and Mike Shikashio to name a few.
Located near Clarksville, TN, I am delighted to offer personalized in-person and virtual sessions tailored to meet your needs. As long as you have internet, I can help.
I use a holistic approach, centered around the unique relationship between you and your dog. We work on a very emotional level. You cannot order a dog to “be confident” like you can cue them to “sit”. You can’t command them to “be cool” with things like you can ask for a “down”. This is something that happens inside each dog. Together we work to help dogs learn to feel better emotionally. We gift them with the skills they need to live in the crazy 21st century world we humans have created. Together, we learn how to accept our individuality, weaknesses, strengths, and communicate with kindness and respect. We teach our dogs how to self-manage and how to make better choices for themselves without fear of punishment or pain. We adjust our expectations so that they are realistic and not simply a dream, ladened with false hope, “as seen on tv”.
Embarking on this path, I discovered a profound love for canine behavior that I never knew existed within me. This newfound passion wasn’t just for my own enlightenment; it was a beacon, calling me to illuminate the way for others. My part-time assistance to fellow dog owners soon blossomed into a full-time commitment, and in the fall of 2019, Lakota’s Legacy Behavior & Life Skills Training emerged from the seeds of my dedication and continuous learning.
Today, I stand with pride as a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant (CDBC) and Accredited Dog Trainer (ADT), recognized by the International Association of Animal Behavior Consultants (IAABC); and certified in concept training under Dr. Tom Mitchell, BVSc, BSc, MRCVS. My journey of education is marked by the mentorship of luminaries such as Dr. Tom Mitchell, Dr. Kathy Murphy BVetMed, DPhil, CVA, CLAS, MRCVS, Grisha Stewart, and Mike Shikashio. I am a staunch advocate of Positive Rewards and Fear-Free Choice methods, and my membership in the Association of Professional Dog Trainers (APDT) and the Shock-Free Coalition reflects my commitment to compassionate training.
From my base near Clarksville, TN, I am excited to extend my reach both in-person and virtually, ensuring that no matter where you are, as long as you’re connected to the internet, I’m here to assist.
My approach is holistic, deeply rooted in the special bond between you and your dog. We navigate the emotional landscape together, understanding that true confidence and calm cannot be commanded but must be cultivated from within. Our goal is to empower dogs to feel emotionally balanced, equipping them with the life skills necessary to navigate our complex world. In partnership, we embrace our individual journeys, acknowledging our vulnerabilities and strengths, and fostering communication built on kindness and mutual respect. We guide our dogs towards self-regulation and better decision-making, free from the shadows of fear and pain. Our expectations are not fantasies cast by fleeting promises but are grounded in the reality of achievable, hopeful futures. Let’s join hands and hearts in this mission, building a world where every dog and human can communicate with trust and live with confidence. The beginning of a new journey with your dog starts now!
It was tough to write our story and put it out into the world. People can be so judgmental, critical and hurtful. I know this. I learned this with Lakota. Lakota didn’t need to be “fixed”; she wasn’t broken. Lakota didn’t need to be “corrected”; she needed to be supported and helped. She didn’t need to “learn who the boss” was; she was my best friend. She just didn’t know what else to do. She wasn’t “aggressive & spiteful”; she was so terribly misunderstood!
“When we know better, we do better!”- Maya Angelou
She is the fire that burns in my heart and the reason I am here today. I know she is watching from above. I see her every time I look into a troubled dog’s eyes. I will always advocate for the dog, no matter what!
Maybe you have been told similar things. Maybe you are sitting there feeling defeated, lost, overwhelmed, stressed out and hopeless. Maybe everyone has been focusing on the wrong thing.
Maybe it’s time to try something different. I certainly will do my best to help you - for Lakota’s Legacy, and for your dog.
Are you ready to begin a new journey with your dog?
My life has been a tapestry woven with the threads of my passion for herding breeds, from Shelties to Collies, and a deep bond with German Shepherds that spans over a quarter of a century. My academic pursuits were an exploration of the human psyche and the intricacies of business, yet it was the former that truly captured my imagination. The equestrian world was my first classroom, where I learned the language of non-verbal communication before transitioning to the corporate rhythm of finance. However, the call of my true vocation was undeniable, leading me to exchange financial ledgers for the joyful sounds of squeaky toys and the companionship of leashes.
My insights and experiences have been shared with the world through publications like Dodo Magazine. Living with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) has been a unique lens through which I view the world, allowing me to connect with the sensory experiences of our canine friends on a profound level.
Now, I find solace in the countryside, far from the urban rush, sharing my home with Anastasia, my spirited Husky, and two assertive Corgis who rule the roost. My days are filled with the pursuit of knowledge in dog behavior, continually sharpening my skills, or wandering the trails with Ana, embracing the serenity of nature. It’s here, in this peaceful retreat, that I find the clarity and inspiration to guide others on their journey to understanding their beloved dogs.
Debunking Canine Behavior Myths
Positive feedback for a book doesn’t necessarily reflect the author’s comprehensive understanding of what drives a dog’s actions.
A background as a military veteran or law enforcement officer with canine experience doesn’t equate to profound insights into dog psychology; it often relates more to training proficiency. Terms such as “command” and “obedience” are relics from a time when military dog training was the norm, but our approach to canine companionship has evolved since then.
The claim that “shock collars are harmless when used correctly” is misleading. Relying on such antiquated techniques indicates a deficit in both knowledge and skill. Improper use is common, and there’s ample research illustrating the detrimental impact of these devices on dogs. There are many strategies to modify behavior—shouldn’t we choose the most compassionate and humane?
Products advertised on television that promise to “stop your dog from barking” or “prevent your dog from pulling” are often quick fixes that can lead to discomfort or exacerbate behavioral issues. For instance, compulsive disorders may develop from something as seemingly harmless as chasing laser pointers.
The notion that “if it worked for my dog, it will work for yours” is flawed. Canine behavior is intricate and individualized; a one-size-fits-all solution is unrealistic. Dispensing training advice without an in-depth understanding of canine psychology can be counterproductive, if not harmful.
“Cheap trainers are just as good”. The adage “you get what you pay for” rings especially true in the realm of dog training. Investing in inexpensive trainers may seem like a bargain at first glance, but the real cost lies in the value of the guidance you receive. Opting for low-cost options can often lead to subpar advice, which not only fails to resolve behavioral issues but can exacerbate them, leading to further expenses down the line.
In contrast, seeking the expertise of a seasoned professional, one who has a wealth of experience with a variety of behaviors and employs a tailored approach, is an investment in lasting change. These experts don’t rely on one-size-fits-all solutions; they understand the intricate nuances of canine behavior and adapt their methods to meet the unique needs of each dog and owner.
So, when considering where to allocate your resources, ask yourself: Would you rather invest once in quality, effective training, or risk spending repeatedly on ineffective, generic advice? The choice is clear—choose wisely and invest in a trainer who offers not just a service, but a partnership in your dog’s behavioral success. Quality training is an investment in your dog’s future and your peace of mind.
The significance of professional certifications extends far beyond the alphabet soup that follows a name. These credentials are not mere decorations; they are badges of honor, earned through stringent examinations designed to validate a deep understanding of canine behavior. Accrediting bodies uphold strict standards, ensuring that their logos and titles are symbols of genuine expertise, not just empty claims.
Consider this: driving a truck doesn’t equate to being a certified mechanic, just as owning a dog (or having trained them) doesn’t automatically bestow upon one the title of a “behaviorist” (which is only earned through a college degree in the US). It’s crucial to recognize the ethical implications and the respect for the field that comes with legitimate certification. So, when selecting a professional for your beloved canine, heed this warning: look beyond the surface, seek out true qualifications, and trust in those who have dedicated themselves to rigorous study and practice. Your dog deserves the expertise that only true professionals can provide.